This has been turned into a burning topic
in present times. It is necessary for us to
find out what Islam says about this.
With Islam, the primary aim of marriage is to safeguard modesty,
which is inherently present in every human being, regardless of
sex. To safeguard this modesty, it has prohibited adultery and
other things which lead to adultery such as indecency, lewd talk,
relations between non-Mahram men and women and has declared
them as Haraam. It has bound men and women to fulfill their
natural desires in such a way that their modesty is not
compromised and their dignity is made safe. For this reason, in
the Holy Quran, adultery and fornication has been prohibited and
marriage has been declared permissible to have sexual relations
within the bounds of modesty.
Staying away from things, which lead to adultery
In the Holy Quran, Allah Ta'ala has ordered us to stay away from
both adultery and things, which lead to adultery. As given in
Surah Noor-
Direct the believing men to keep their eyes always lowered and
guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Surely Allah is
Well Aware of the (works) which they are busy doing. Surah
Noor (24:30)
There is a Hadith in Musnad Iman Ahmed bin Hambal:
Translation of Hadith: It has been narrated on the authority of
Hadhrat Abu Hurairah (May Allah be well pleased with him) that
the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) has said: Every
part of the body plays its part in adultery. Eyes fornicate and their
fornication is seeing. Hands fornicate and their fornication is
holding and grasping. Feet fornicate and their fornication is to
walk (towards adultery). Mouth fornicates and its fornication is
to kiss. The heart desires and the private parts endorse it by
fornicating or belies it and stays away from adultery. (Musnad
Iman Ahmed bin Hambal, Hadith No. 8572)
There is a Hadith in Mo'jam Kabeer Tabarani and Kanz Ul
Ummal:
Translation of Hadith: Hadhrat Ma'aqal (May Allah be well
pleased with him) narrates that the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam) said: That a needle of iron should prick your head is
better than that you touch a non-Mahram woman. (Mo'jam
Kabeer Tabarani, Hadith No. 16880; Kanz Ul Ummal, Hadith No.
13065).
There is a Hadith in Mo'jam Kabeer Tabarani, Jame' Ul Ahadith,
Kanz Ul Ummal:
Translation of Hadith: It has been narrated on the authority of
Hadhrat Abu Umama (May Allah be well pleased with him) that
the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: You surely
keep your gaze down and guard your private parts otherwise
Allah Ta'ala will change your faces. (Mo'jam Kabeer Tabarani,
Hadith No. 7746; Jame' Ul Ahadith, Hadith No. 18309; Kanz Ul
Ummal Hadith No. 13082)
The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said:
Translation of Hadith: Whoever looks at the beauty of a woman
with desire, on the Day of Judgment, molten lead will be poured
into his eyes. (Al Hidayah, Kitab Ul Karahiyya, Vol. 4, Pg. No.
458)
It is strictly forbidden to touch or caress a non-Mahram. The
Hadith have warnings about it. There is a Hadith about in Al
Hidayah:
Translation of Hadith: Whoever touches the hand of a non-
Mahram woman, on the Day of Judgment, an ember will be
placed on his hand. (Al Hidayah, Kitab Ul Karahiyya, Vol. 4, Pg.
No. 459)
All the warnings mentioned above about a man touching a non-
Mahram woman are true for woman as well who reveal their
beauty before a non-Mahram man and allow them to touch/caress
them.
Sexual relations between an unmarried couple, no matter in which
form, is strictly impermissible and strictly forbidden. The rules of
Shariah cannot be broken in the name of love or freedom. Allah
Ta'ala says in the Holy Quran:
These are the limits (set) by Allah. So, do not exceed them. And
those who exceed the limits prescribed by Allah, it is they who
are the wrongdoers. Surah Baqarah (2:229.)
There is a Hadith in Sahih Bukhari and Sahih Muslim:
Translation of Hadith: It has been narrated on the authority of
Hadhrat Abu Hurairah (May Allah be well pleased with him) that
the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: At the time
when an adulterer is committing adultery, he (or she) is not a
complete Momin (believer). (Sahih Bukhari, Hadith No. 2475;
Sahih Muslim, Hadith No. 211)
Describing how bad adultery is, the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam) has declared it the worst sin after ascribing
partners to Allah Ta'ala (Shirk). He (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam)
said:
Translation of Hadith: After Shirk, there is no sin worst than
casting one's seed in a womb, which was not permissible for that
man. (Jame' Ul Ahadith, Hadith No. 20456)
Mutual relations before marriage – The West and
Islamic guidelines
In support of consensual sexual relations before marriage, the
west says that there should be mutual relations before marriage as
this enables the man and the woman to understand each other.
The whole world knows the results of this approach. Many
women become pregnant before marriage and have to abort out of
fear of facing the society and/or their parents/guardian or for
some other reasons.
As long as relationships to "understand each other" are concerned,
the results of this are also obvious. However, Islam has given
such a method of doing so that neither modesty is compromised
nor the need is left unfulfilled.
The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) has said about
seeing the face of the fiancé/fiancée before marriage:
Translation of Hadith: You see her as this seeing is a means of
eternal love between you. (Jame' Tirmidhi, Vol. 1, Pg. No. 207)
For the proposal of marriage, seeing only the face and palms is
mentioned in the Hadith. Seeing the face is to judge the beauty
and seeing the palms is to judge the body. If more details are
desired, then a reliable woman can be sent to the bride and all
other details can be had. In the same way, if the girl desires to see
the groom before marriage, the Shariah permits this as well. As
given in Radd Ul Muhtaar, Kitab Ul Hizr Wal Ibaha.
Sexual relations before marriage are such that no religion of the
world permits it. They know that to permit it is to drive the
society towards disaster.
As long as marriage is not done, the boy and the girl are non-
Mahram for each other. Having relations with a non-Mahram
woman, talking to her, seeing her, meeting her is all
impermissible and Haraam. Maintaining sexual relations before
marriage is such an act that rouses the wrath of Allah Ta'ala.
Things which lead to adulterous relationships before marriage
1. Lack of Islamic education.
2. Carelessness in proper upbringing of the children.
3. Company of indecent people.
4. Sex education in schools.
5. TV and films.
6. Misuse of Internet and phone.
7. Coeducation in schools/colleges.
8. Indecent literature.
9. Not practicing Islamic Purdah.
10. Delay in marriage.
The atmosphere/company has a great effect on an individual's life.
If the company is pious and pure, then the whole life is spent in
piety. If only bad company is gotten, then character is destroyed.
Lack of Islamic education and proper upbringing is one of the
primary reasons for this problem. The atmosphere of the home is
such that the whole time is spent in the misuse of TV, Internet and
the phone. This effect of this kind of atmosphere is such that the
individual take their first steps on the path of misguidance. The
schools and colleges can place a check on this, but alas even
there, sex education and coeducation have vitiated the
atmosphere. Indecent literature, company of characterless people,
etc. drive the individual to even more sins.
Results of sexual relations before marriage:
1. Widespread adultery.
2. Increase in suicide rate.
3. Incurable diseases.
4. Women inclining towards abortion.
5. Familial animosity.
6. Backwardness in education and other areas.
Because of this, adultery becomes rampant in the society. When
women become pregnant, they either abort it or end up
committing a grave sin like suicide. Then a long series of
animosities and differences starts between the families. Many
infants have been sacrificed at the altar of death for sins, which
they have not committed.
In UK, out of 193737 abortions, 17173 are of girls who are less
than 18 years old. In the whole of Europe, every 30 second a
divorce occurs and every 27 seconds an abortion.
As a punishment of this sin, which is committed individually,
incurable and contagious diseases are born, which destroy the
society. Because of sexual relations before marriage, the world is
facing new diseases. AIDS is spreading throughout world as a
wrath of Allah Ta'ala and millions of people are being swept
down into the abyss of death. Women are the most affected by
AIDS.
The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said about fatal
diseases:
Translation of Hadith: It has been narrated on the authority of
Hadhrat Abdullah Bin Umar (May Allah be well pleased with
them), he said that the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam)
came between us and said: ………..when the tendency to
indecency increases in a nation to the point that they start
committing indecency openly, then plague and other such
diseases spread among them, which were not present in the times
of their forefathers. (Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith No. 4009)
Curbing illicit relationships – Islamic guidelines
In light of Islamic guidelines, the following have been suggested
to curb illicit sexual relationships:
1. Following the Sunnah in performing marriage.
2. Avoiding everything, which may lead to adultery.
Islam teaches us to be modest and instructs us to be chaste. It
instructs to not even approach indecencies let alone actually
committing them. Allah Ta’ala says in the Holy Quran:
Say: ‘Come, I will recite to you those things which your Lord has
forbidden to you: Do not set up anything as a partner with Him;
be morally excellent with parents; and do not kill your children
owing to poverty. We alone give you sustenance and (will provide
for) them as well. And do not draw near to shameful deeds
(whether) open or hidden. And do not kill the soul whose (killing)
Allah has forbidden, except when it is rightful due (according to
Law in self-defence, against disruption and while combating
terrorism). It is these (injunctions) He has enjoined upon you so
that you may apply reason. Surah An’aam (6:151)
Allah Ta’ala also says:
And do not even go near unlawful sex (adultery). Verily it is an
act of lewdness and is the most evil way. Surah Isra (17:32)
Modesty is such a part of human nature that no religion and no
cultured person can deny the importance and necessity of this.
For this reason, Islam has declared modesty to be a part of faith,
as given in this Hadith of Sahih Bukhari:
Translation: It has been narrated on the authority of Hadhrat Abu
Hurairah (May Allah be well pleased with him) that the Holy
Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: Iman (Faith) has more
than 60 branches and modesty is also a branch of Iman.
It ought to be clear the modesty is the dividing line between
humanity and beastliness.
As Islam insists upon modesty so much and declares it to be part
of faith, a well-planned campaign intended to divest Muslims of
this very important article of faith seems to be underway so that
Muslims eventually end up losing their faith itself.
Nowadays, indecency has become so common in the society that
it is being accepted in the name of liberalism and the like.
The experts are saying that the society has as a whole become
complacent about sexual licentiousness. There is no
embarrassment or sense of unease about any kind of sexual
escapades, be it adultery, sodomy or ay other unnatural sexual act.
In fact, the media is moving heaven and earth to try to make
virginity a source of embarrassment.
It seems to be a political and cultural ploy of the West to misguide
women in the name of freedom, to bring her out in the streets and
bazaars and reduce her to the status of a plaything. Women are
being cheated like this. They are ending up being no more than
sales girls, models or clerks.
In the name of freedom, women have been forced to work
alongside men in various fields and this again leads to sexual
licentiousness.
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